Waiting to Exhale Epiphany

Pretty and Sexy have decided to tag team on this blogging gig. Our goal is to engage in real conversation. I had an epiphany while watching Waiting to Exhale a couple of days ago. I shared my thoughts with TOY CLOSET NYC.  We are pretty candid there and thought we would share some of our thoughts…

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Waiting to Exhale Epiphany

I remember hearing Oprah say “A person should re-read books during different times of their life”. Supposedly a book at 15 reads differently at 25 and that same book will look totally different at 40.

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Sexual Fluidity: She’s into MEN, She’s into Women.

Men and Women sexuality  are different according to a recent article by Ian Kenner, a sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author, blogs about sex on Thursdays on The Chart. Read more from him on his website, GoodInBed.

Actress Cynthia Nixon (Star of SITC) made headlines recently when she said during an interview that she “chooses” to be a lesbian.

“I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better,” she said. “For me, it is a choice.”

Read more about Sexual Fluidity here.

According to Lisa Diamond women are a lot different from men when it comes to sexuality because of the following:

– Non-exclusivity in attractions: can find either gender sexually attractive
– Changes in attractions: can suddenly find a man or woman sexually attractive after having been in a long-term relationship with the other

– Attraction to the person, not the gender

Do you think Women are a little more open to sexuality than Men? What are your thoughts?

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WHERE ALL THE GOOD MEN AT?

This past Tuesday, we hosted our first Conversation of the year. Dr. Alduan Tartt had a little heart to heart with the Art of Conversation. It was an amazing event. More details will come in the near future.

He made an interesting comment:

“Ladies,  Black Enterprise yearly convention normally has a ratio of 60:40 men to women! The reason you didn’t know is because your girl who went didn’t tell you.”

As a woman I never considered checking out a conference to meet men. I only thought “groupies” did that; but the ratios of 60:40 has a girl thinking “HMMMMMMMMMMMMMM!”

 You will never meet the man of your dreams running in packs. Hanging out with your Sorors at your sorority events. He’s not at your favorite coffee shop or boutique. You might luck up on him out and about but sometimes you have to put a little work in.

 He went on to say that women should go to the places that men frequent. Men are not hanging out at the places that we frequent. Go to a business seminar, most men are all about making money. Volunteer to serve breakfast at the men’s ministry monthly meeting (you look like a SAINT and get a chance to mix and mingle). Go to sporting events and have fun (don’t be thirsty at the events).

Last but not least LEAVE the pack mentality at home. NO MAN WANTS TO APPROACH YOU WHEN YOU ARE WITH ALL YOUR GIRLS! That’s a buzz kill according to most men.

 

He pressed the point to LIVE your life. Have FUN. Be COOL, CONFIDENT, and BOLD and you will attract that GOOD MAN. Can you add to our list of places a woman should go to meet a GREAT GUY? 

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Roland Martin + Joking = Reprimand or an Opportunity to Discuss Homophobia!

Today one of the Art’s very own Iva Williams lead a very thought-provoking conversation on homophobia in the African-American community. Homophobia perpetuates fear that put lives in danger. Some men have a sense of shame and fear of their sexuality. Living in the closet is a reality for many Americans.

As a feminist, I think about the women who are having unprotected sex with men who are living a double life. It is quite frightening to think of any of my sisters, friends, acquaintances having to deal with a man who is living a double life. I feel that  it is HIGH time for African-Americans to have an honest conversation about sexuality. Let’s stop making people feel bad for being themselves. Creating a sense of fear/intimidation hurts not only homosexuals but heterosexuals. Women and Men are dying daily because of fear. 

I could get really deep but I choose to discuss Roland Martin today. It is common to hear gay jokes/slurs. Most times we just laugh and keep it moving. This past weekend Roland Martin had one of those moments while watching the Super Bowl. He tweeted to his fans the following: “people should “smack the ish” out of any male fans of an underwear ad starring David Beckham.”. Most of us have fallen victim to saying something on twitter or my personal fav FACEBOOK and thinking “Wow, I probably should have not said that or maybe that was too much!“. Roland had such a moment. I am sure he was kidding. I am sure he did not mean any harm. But a JOKE might very well cause him his JOB with CNN. 

CNN announced Wednesday that it is suspending Roland Martin in the wake of the pundit’s controversial Super Bowl tweets.

Wow, I pray that Roland makes an apology and he can get his job back. But brothers and sisters Homosexuals feel pain like anyone else. Let’s use this episode with Roland Martin as a learning opportunity. Let’s work on our  issues with HOMOPHOBIA. We have countless men and women living in the closet. Living double lives. Placing others in harm’s way because they are too afraid to embrace their sexuality.

It’s 2012. If you are GAY STAND UP AND BE PROUD. If you are HOMOPHOBIC; you might want to check yourself before you WRECK YOURSELF. THINK ABOUT IT!

Read More about Roland Martin’s Suspension on the Huffington Post.

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Did you know today is NATIONAL BLACK HIV/AIDS Awareness Day

Today, as the Black community recognizes the 12th Annual National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day, we stand at the crossroads of heightened awareness, education, and potential eradication. To understand the magnitude of being in such a positive position, it is imperative that we examine how far we’ve come and how close we find ourselves to alleviating the stranglehold that HIV/AIDS has held on our communities.

Read the rest here: In America, Black AIDS Institute is WINNING the WAR!

Written by: FRIEND OF THE ART Kirsten Savali-West

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Who should I LOVE more: Mama or Wifey?

It’s funny how there are certain questions in life that you never think about until you have to. I found myself faced with one of those questions the other day: Who do I love more my mama or my wife?

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Ladies Who DATE!

Have you ever noticed how the moment someone gets married, all of a sudden they become an expert on relationships and dating?  Really, it’s as if married people suddenly have all of the answers and their single friends seek their advice.  Well, I am here as your newly minted non-expert!  When it comes to dating, I have definitely had my share of troubles and triumphs.   But I’m not writing this as a relationship guru.  I’m writing this for the ladies who date.

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